Therapy

My husband and I have been attending Therapy for the past six months through the LifeStar program. Honestly, when we first started going, I thought that I was going just to help my husband. I didn't realize that this program would help me as a wife heal so much. It has been so amazing learning ways that I myself fed the addiction because I was constantly afraid of my husband slipping again. I would obsess over what he was looking at at all times. It was exhausting, and it was turning me into a paranoid and isolated individual. I didn't talk to my old friends because I was worried about them finding out about my husband. I didn't talk to my family about it, because I wanted them to still love him. By doing so, I cut off all of my coping mechanisms, and started to bottle up emotions. Now, this new therapy has given me a support system of girls whose husbands are all struggling with the same thing. They know what I'm going through, and I know what they are going through, and it's been so nice to know that if I'm going through a hard time, the drama isn't going to seep into my family or outside friend group. I can't even begin to tell you how relieving it is! I didn't think I needed therapy, but I did. Because now that my husband is finally going through the (ROUGH) process of real recovery, I don't want to be left behind. I don't want to be constantly still worrying that he might slip again- because that may drag him down again.
Here is my plug for anybody who is reading this- If you have the opportunity, I would think about maybe going to therapy for yourself. You may not realize it, but research has proven that wives of Porn addicts often display signs of PTSD. Life will dramatically improve, I promise. Find a therapist that works with you and your personality, and don't be afraid to completely dive in and experience the relief that healing brings.